Things went from bad to worse for a woman when she met with a man she’d been talking to on Tinder, as at first he was awkward and reserved – then he brought out his late mother’s ashes
A woman was shocked she went on a first date with a man she met on Tinder – and he brought his late mother’s ashes along.
Sharing her story anonymously, the woman said that she had been chatting to the man for a while and decided it was time for the two to meet up.
She invited him to a barbecue at her house and things started off badly as he arrived late, and when he arrived he explained how he drove past several times and almost turned around to go home.
Then he wouldn’t stop talking about every inch of family drama, brought extra food around for himself that he didn’t share, then brought out a vial full of ashes – which he explained was his late mother.
Taking to Reddit, the woman said: “When we sit down, he reaches into his pocket and pulls out a vial.
“It is about two inches tall with a cork in it. It’s filled with black powder. He must have noticed me staring at it flipping between if he was about to snort something strange or build some sand-art.
“He said, ‘Oh’, all super casual. ‘I’d like to introduce you to my mother’.
“I just stared at him for what felt like an eternity. I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry or run.
“‘I like to bring her to any important event in my life. She also has ashes in this necklace I’m wearing, and in this ring I have on, and this half-sleeve tattoo is for her’.
“Now, mind you, I’ve lost too many people close to me, and I do not judge people based on their grief cycles, we all cope differently and I respect that.
“But homeboy brought a vial of his mother’s ashes, and set them on the table for our first date. I simply could not.
“He finally finished his burger and I made some excuse about having to clock in and finish some work. He texted me before he even got to his car and told me ‘my mother really liked you, I can’t wait to see you again’.
“I told him I didn’t feel the connection – to him, or his mother.”
After sharing her story online, other Reddit users commented on the post – with many people saying the man’s actions were over the top.
One user said: “Wowza. Yeah I understand people kind of word-vomiting when nervous but that’s unreal. I thought he invited an alive mother to tag along on the date, so I guess it could have been worse?”
“God almighty” added a second. “I can not fathom the social ineptitude where one would bring just two pieces of bacon to a cookout; and not even sharing them!”
While a third person added: “Look you can either marry this guy or move because this dude knows where you live.”